why female friendships are like black leggings & denim jackets
I don’t know about you, but I don’t remember a time in my adult life when I didn't own several pairs of black leggings and at least two denim jackets. They are versatile, adaptable, and never really go out of style. As I was throwing on my denim jacket this morning (over a pair of leggings, no less), it hit me: My friends are truly like these trusty wardrobe pieces—the older I get, the more I rely on them all. And I realize that I don’t ever want to find myself without any of them!
Having friends (male and female) is one of the most fulfilling aspects of my life. That said, there is often something different about the depth of connection in female friendships. Perhaps it is the shared experiences, willingness to be vulnerable or emotional investment we make in each other, but I can honestly say that the unconditional love I hold for my girlfriends has only deepened the older I get.
So I dedicate this post to all of my friends who hold such a special place in my heart, I love you all (even as much as my beloved denim jacket)!
why do Black leggings, denim jackets & good friends go with everything?
Both are there for you in any situation
Yes, I have been known to wear a denim jacket over almost everything—fancy dresses, work clothes, pajamas—you name it. A denim jacket has to go down in history as one of the most adaptable articles of clothing—EVER. Like a denim jacket, a good friend just “fits” every occasion - whether it’s a night out, afternoon coffee, or a Target run.
Denim Jackets also stand the test of time. I would be willing to bet that some of you still own one that was around “back when” - back before you were married or before you were a mom or before you became whatever you are today. True friendships also stand the test of time. They may get weathered and a bit beat up, but somehow they seem to fit better the older they get.
Good Friends are forgiving and non-judgemental - just like our stretch pants
In my humble opinion, it’s essential to have both pants and friends who can stretch with you no matter what life throws your way. Like your favorite black leggings (you know the ones - thick enough to hide the cellulite but form-fitting enough to make you look like you actually have a butt), female friends give us grace. They have our back even when we make bad choices or life doesn’t go exactly as planned. They forgive us even when we don’t show up as our best selves. Just like our leggings are forgiving of the skipped workouts and extra servings of cake, our friends let us show up just as we are and don’t judge us (even on our bloated days).
FEMALE friendships are always in style
Think iconic examples like Thelma & Louise, or Rachel, Monica and Phoebe, or Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda and Samantha. Female friendships go beyond trendy, they are timeless. True friendships last, just like the denim jacket I keep referencing. Easy, dependable, and will see us through our least flattering moments!
final thoughts
Bottom line, female friends really are the wardrobe staples of a good life - comfort, support, and style. The timeless essentials. Who could ask for more? I know I can’t.
“Don’t ever let a person tell you that leggings aren’t pants. You don’t need that negativity in your life.”
